Monday, June 18, 2012

Small Town Love

The last time I lived in my hometown was in 1994, the year I went away to college. 'Went away' might be too liberal of a phrase because Bowling Green State University was only a 45 minute drive away from my parents' house. But, nevertheless, I lived there for 4 years and then moved to Cincinnati after graduation in 1998.  So for 18 years, when I have met someone new and have been asked where I am from, I have always said 'Ottawa Ohio.'  But the fact is I am not from Ottawa.  I grew up in an even smaller town called Glandorf.  I've found some people have at least seen the sign next to Interstate 75 that points them 25 or so miles west to Ottawa.  (Ottawa is Glandorf's next door neighbor and is where Wal-Mart, McDonalds, Wendys, Arbys, Subway and Pizza Hut are.  I don't think I left anything out.)  Others, familiar with the small towns that make up the landscape between Lima and Toledo, know generally where it is but have still not heard of Glandorf.  I guess it's just easier on the conversation than trying to describe which dot on the map in the cornfields of Ohio Glandorf is. Kind of like telling people I live in Cincinnati rather than West Chester, the suburb we live in. The difference being West Chester's population is 60,958 and Glandorf's is 958. (Ottawa's population is 4,396 and Cincinnati's is just under 297,000 so it's not like everyone I meet has even heard of Ottawa but you get my point).

Either way, I know where I come from and am glad we can visit here for days in a row so my girls know it too. Songs about small towns are written for a reason. They are mostly country songs, but they generally paint a pretty good picture of the area I grew up in.  Songs about sittin' on your porch with a beer watching the sun set over the fields nail it.   Songs about a dirt road and some bottles rollin' on the floor boards capture more than a few of my high school memories.  For the record, I have never been on anyone's big green tractor nor have I been asked if I thought said tractor was sexy. :)  Don't get me wrong, I love living in a metropolitan area and often wonder, aside from being closer to my family, if I would even like to move back. (Remember? The nearest Target is over an hour's drive away!)  But I fully appreciate the charm of the small towns when I am here or am sitting in traffic in Cincinnati listening to those country songs on the radio.  

Missing my Jazzercise class, I went for a walk/run through the town of Glandorf this morning.  I walked the length of town listening to Dave Matthews on my iPhone and stopped to take some pictures and smell the roses so to speak.  What I love most about blogging is I have become more aware of moments, however large or small or ordinary or extraordinary; wanting to capture them more often than before.  Maybe I am romanticizing the small town life some here, or maybe it's the perspective you get from living some place more urban for so long.  But as I walked through this town that doesn't have a single stop light and the only traffic jam is when you get stuck behind a John Deere on a road with no lines, I found myself calmer and breathing deeper.  I really started breathing deeper when I began to run on the path around the park.  By the time I got there I was feeling very inspired by the quaint charm that comes from the absence of urban sprawl and the calming presence of the big Catholic church where I have received every sacrament.  So I turned the music from Dave to Zac Brown Band and began my run.   Quaint, calming charm turned into red-faced gasping as I don't often run for exercise.   It became quite obvious that I am not in as good of shape as I thought I was, because it felt like I was pulling a pallet of bricks behind me as I ran.   In all honesty, it was probably more like a pallet of ice cream and Miller Lites, and that brings home the reason I am not in the ideal shape I'd like to be in.  But I did find some items along the paved path that I paused (very briefly) to snap a picture of.   Little things that all help add up to make my hometown.  A small town with big impact.  For me anyways.

The gem of Glandorf: St. John's Catholic Church
(someday I'll post take pictures of the inside of the church and you will understand why it is such a gem, but I need a better camera for that)

This is the K thru 8 school that I went to with the exact same playgroud equipment still there!

Evidence of the town's German heritage

No doubt, farming is a way of life for a lot of folks here

I still don't know why the local watering hole and pizza place is named the Bomb Shelter

Main Street is a compliment of houses, family businesses and fields

Just had to take a pictre of the barber shop

The park still has the same red twisty slide and merry-go-round that were there when I was a kid

The new path around the park now has excercise equipment to humor you (that's an old tractor seat you sit on for your presses)

I thought these were hilarious!

Also there was a fence you where you can get in some resistance work with varying weights!

While we're talking of small town characteristics, I was nearly bowled over Saturday when mom and I went to the local grocery store in Ottawa after we arrived in from Cincinnati.  (okay, West Chester)  My mom works at Kohls Market in the bakery and, yes, that comes with some pretty tasty perks for us :)  At the checkout we wheeled the cart up to the register and the lady begins to type in every single item's price.  Manually.  With her fingers.  Not a scanner in sight.  Then she got on the intercom and called for carryout register one.  I looked quick and she meant for us!  I took out my iPhone, flipped it to silent and inconspicuously started to take some pictures of it all.  This experience was not foreign to me, because this was how groceries were rung up at this very grocery store when I was growing up.  I had no idea they still did this, though!  I'm told that the owner wants to keep the experience more personal for the shopper.  I say, 'great idea!'  Everyone in line was waiting patiently as the cashier flipped each item around, finding the sticker that had been placed on by a human hand with a sticker gun.  I have to say, though, I have been carrying out and even bagging my own groceries for too long, most times with two kids in tow, and I felt very uncomfortable having the young gentlemen cart the bags to the car.  I resisted the urge to push him aside and assure him that we could handle our own groceries as I watched him and my mom chat up about the weather.   And I couldn't make eye contact with him afterwards because I felt slightly awkward that I didn't tip him for his service.  My mom laughed at me and shook her head.  Yeah, it's good to come home and see that things don't change.  I'd probably stop staying for such long visits if I had to ever (and I mean EVER) wait at a traffic light in Glandorf, Ohio.
Entering the price for every item by hand

Not a scanner in sight

Groceries delivered to your car (and stowed nicely)

The best thing about these small towns is seeing family, though! :)

Casey lounging in the baby pool

Emily enjoying some pudding (or a facial scrub.  not quite sure)

Sunday, June 17, 2012

Happy Father's Day

We're celebrating Father's Day via Skype with Tom today as he doesn't return from New Jersey until Friday night.  I had the girls answer some questions about their dad and packed those along with some construction-papered and crayoned homemade cards into his bag before he left.  The girls know he likes to snack in the evenings, so we also packed him some peanuts (because we're 'nuts' about him), some Reece's Pieces (because we love him to 'pieces'), some M&M's (because we think he is magnificent and marvelous), and some Lays potato chips (because we hope he gets to 'lay' around and watch golf all day).  It stinks he has to be away for work over Father's Day, but he managed to find the silver lining because the U.S. Open is on and he is able to sit and watch golf uninterrupted all day long.  Although he probably won't admit it, I bet he thinks it's pretty great to just turn Skype off when the girls start fighting and whining and go back to watching golf.  Anyhow, I think he is a fantastic dad to Casey and Emily!  I have loved watching him with the girls while they are little and I know he will continue to be as wonderful as they get older.  He makes time to do special one-on-one things with Casey like go to the circus, the water park or take her out to lunch.  He is Emily's biggest champion and protector.  Sometimes being a dad is difficult like when your kids always ask for mommy to put them to bed and not dad.  Or when as a dad you are told your daughter has a diagnosis that will put off the date you had hoped to retire one day in order to work to provide as much of a nest egg for her as possible.  But I'm guessing from the sideline I sit on, being a dad is pretty fun most of the time.  I took a poll today and asked who the best dad in the world was.  2 out of 2 kids polled said Tom was :)  I hope you are reading this, honey!  I love you!!

Daddy and Casey, 2005

Daddy and Emily, 2009

Below are 2 of my favorite 'Daddy' pictures!  I walked into each one and grabbed the camera.  The one on the left is daddy daycare at it's finest: Emily getting her bedtime bottle while daddy watches golf and enjoys a beer :)  The one on the right is daddy multi-tasking while I went to get my hair cut one evening: Emily is along for the ride while daddy makes spaghetti and washes bottles with Casey under foot :)



Daddy taking time out from mowing the yard to swing on the glider with Casey

Daddy and Casey at the zoo, 2006

Daddy caught with tears in his eyes talking to Emily privately one evening on the deck


Holding Emily after spine surgery


Daddy and Casey, 2006

Daddy and his girls, 2011

So Tom is gone and the girls and I get to spend Father's Day with my dad.  My dad is quiet and hard working and I have never once heard him complain about all the sacrifices he has made for our family.  He was always there to build snowmen in the winters, shoot hoops in the driveway, swim in the pool and cheer on every single volleyball match, basketball game and track meet I ever participated in.  He was also there to teach his 3 daughters how to work hard.  As I now spread the mulch around our house or trim bushes or wash cars, I am glad dad didn't raise me to be a girly-girl who needs a man to take care of these things.  I like knowing that I can use an electric drill, a jigsaw, a hedge trimmers, a hammer or an orbital sander if I need to.  Maybe I didn't like to always help him as a teenager, but I know in hindsight what a gift he was giving me by teaching me how to do so many things and the importance of being a hard worker.  When Tom met my dad, he nicknamed him 'MacGuyver' because he could probably build or fix anything with some caulk, wood shims and an extension cord.  He built a shed (I remember being up on the roof hammering away when my uncles and cousins came to help build it) that houses an endless collection of treasures and junk.  His workshop is his sanctuary, especially now in his retirement.   I know the accumulation of everything in the workshop drives my mom crazy sometimes but the space makes my dad happy. My dad has always loved to tinker and work and build things.  Even my girls have bookcases, doll bunk beds, Barbie furniture and devices that we use for therapy - all made by Papa.  Dad and his workshop go hand-in-hand.  It's where he taught me skills I am happy to have learned and where he has built some memories for my daughters.  We're missing daddy today, but we're happy to be here with Papa this Father's Day, too.
Papa with Casey, 2005

Papa dancing with Emily and Adysen, 2011

Papa and the special push wagon he built for Emily to use while she was wearing her brace after surgery


You know that song in the movie 'The Little Mermaid' where Ariel is in the cave she keeps her treasures in and she sings about her collection?  There is a verse in the song that says something like "I have whoosits and whatists galoore.  You want thingamabobs....."  I think of that every time I am in here :)
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