Wednesday, May 16, 2012

Sunshine and Flip Flops

Crusin'

These last few days have been perfect weather to be outside!  Cool enough to not break a sweat standing still and warm enough to not need sleeves and to be flip floppin' around the driveway with some (new!) sidewalk chalk.  Flip flops are just another of the many things we typical people take for granted.  It gets warm.  You paint the toes.  And you break out the flip flops.  That is if you have perfect coordination and balance to walk in them!  Emily has been begging for flip flops this past week. She keeps saying she wants to be like Casey and we can usually find her trying to walk around the house in either mine or Casey's flip flops.   I was pretty sure she would not be able to walk in them, but, once again, I put myself in check with what I am determining abilities to be and went to Meijer and bought her a pair with sparkles.   Because, really, we are all about the sparkle here in our house.   Because I haven't fully introduced Emily onto my blog yet, I will interject briefly the challenge that flip flops present for her.  Emily walked for the first time when she was 26 months and and has since been balancing a very tall, lean body along with low muscle tone and this results in an unstable Emily.   Trust me, we can live with unstable, un-flip flopped Emily!  After she was born, doctors told us it would be unlikely she would ever walk.   So if sister wants to try flip flops, let it be! And with sparkles!!   It really is a funny sight to see.   After taking 10 minutes to finally position the thong thing between her toes, she begins to shuffle around, knees locked.   And the rest of us just laugh and encourage her persistence.   I don't really care if she ever wears another pair again, but I'm pretty sure she'll master it one day like all the 'other kids' and we will, again, be grateful for all that she is accomplishing.   It will be low on our Richter scale of achievements in her life, but I'm sure this will be worthy enough to indulge in some pedicures to show off those sweet little toes.   And it will probably be nail polish with sparkles...

Homework outside
Flying on the cozy coupe
I think the sunshine is affecting Casey like some kind of drug that has taken her from category 2 Hurricane Casey to more like a category 4 Hurricane Casey. While I was getting Emily settled with a bowl of cereal yesterday morning, Casey came running full throttle through the kitchen shouting "woo-hoo!". It was 7:35.....a.m.  And it happened again at 7:36 and 7:37 respectively.   Tom asked me what in the world was up with her.   And my only guess was the combination of all this sunshine and the end of the school year approaching has her just bursting with excitement.   Either that, or she has a secret stash of caffeine and chocolate somewhere in the house.   But I kind of doubt it because, like, I would KNOW if there was chocolate in my house.  We just need to get through these last 2 weeks of school and then I am certain all this energy at the end of the days will be gone as the girls will be exhausted from swimming at the pool each day.   But it is I who will be the exhausted one tomorrow as I am helping Casey's class with their First Grade Field Day all day long.   I will report back with some fun times, I'm sure :)


And I am working up to writing a blog entry on Emily's story.   I wrote it down a year or two ago in a to-be book but it's been a long while since I've written in it.   The idea of a book is so overwhelming. That's why I like the blog- I can start and stop whenever I want and I don't feel pressured to put it in chronological order.   I can usually only write about Emily's story a little at a time before I become taken over by emotion.   Maybe this time it will be easier.   Maybe I will just copy what I've already written.   I haven't decided yet.   Either way, I feel it is important to put down on paper - they are strong memories that are important to our family's journey and I do not want them to be forgotten in the depths of my mind.   And, conversely, I don't want them to take up precious space in my head and heart any longer.   I want to be able to make room for water fun, flying on cars, sidewalk chalk, sunshine and flip flops.



Monday, May 14, 2012

Ages and Stages - Catching Up! (Casey)

Here is the reason I started this blog.  To document memories and milestones and ages and stages.  This is one of my biggest regrets (so far) as a mother - I haven't kept up on writing down memories.  I've got the pictures but no captions of the milestones; the funny sayings, etc.  So before I can document what's happening now, I'm going to need to rewind and catch up some. 

Casey
A funny memory that always stands out of her early days is this: 
My cousin, Jean, had a baby girl the same day as Casey was born.  Casey was my first and Megan was Jean's second child.  The girls were maybe 2 weeks old when Jean and I finally found time to chat over the phone to catch up and compare notes on our babies and motherhood.  I was standing in the kitchen of our old house on Wexford and Casey was hanging out in the adjacent family room in the bouncer seat.  Casey starts to cry and Jean asks me (kind of alarmed), "Is that Casey crying??!"  I answer, yes, and Jean proceeds to tell me she has never heard a baby cry that loud!  Luckily, I found this amusing.  Those of you who know Casey now, might collectively giggle at this story - you kind of get it, right?  It's like I had just been given a heads-up from the start.

Casey had colic from about 5 weeks to 13 weeks old.  It took Tom and I about 4 or 5 days of trying to run the vacuum cleaner, rocking, singing, swaddling, shushing and contemplating calling an exorcist to figure out how to stop the crying.  It wasn't all day- it started somewhere around 5:00 p.m. and lasted until about midnight, but, remember, it was fairly loud crying as far as crying goes.  After reading the highlights of a couple of figuring-out-your-newborn-books, I guessed (literally, guessed) that maybe she was overstimulated by the end of the day.  Sister had worked herself onto a schedule pretty quickly as far as feeding, burping, napping, so I'm not sure what she was getting overstimulated on, but she was scheduling her nightly meltdowns as well.  I remember the first night we tried the the magic combination of putting her in her swing on full speed, and covering the swing with a blanket with the lights in the room turned off.  Tom was in the kitchen making spaghetti and I was sitting in the dark on the floor next to the swing, praying to God that the swing would not run out of batteries.  And we repeated that formula every evening for 2 months.   I remember our newlywed friends, Ted and Melissa, came to visit sometime during her colic phase.  We were all in the kitchen playing cards and we had Casey in her swing with the blanket draped over it in another room with the lights turned off.  I swear they probably thought we were the craziest parents in the universe!  But we were learning early on, that Casey was very vocal, liked her days predictable and was going to leave us scrambling trying to find ways to keep her happy.  :)    (All in a good way!)

After week 13, Casey was a happy baby and kid, although I look back at some pictures of her and can see a worried expression as well - again shedding a light onto her developing personality (she's turned out to inherit some of the useless over-worrying gene passed to me from my mom and to her from grandma).  She started walking just before her first birthday (I think Halloween was the first time she took 4 or 5 steps at a time).  I don't remember exactly when she started saying actual words, (her first was 'mommy')  but I know it was kind of early when she started and she hasn't stopped talking since.  I worked 5 days a week until she was 4-1/2, so Casey went to daycare.  It was a positive experience for both her and I.  Selfishly, I liked working and she was (is) such a social creature, that she loved it as well.  She learned a lot there- including potty training!!  As a mom, I should have really wanted to take charge of that one, but I didn't, so there it is.  Her 'teacher' said she was ready and that I should bring some pull ups in and then she was potty trained.  Ta-Da!  I don't falsely hold claim to this, but am still proud she did it in less than a week.  Casey never called the potty the 'potty,'  she called it the 'poppy' and never once did we (or, by our instruction, her daycare teachers) try to change it.  It was so cute and when she eventually went to pre-school, she finally was corrected.  She was still little so it's not like she was embarrassed about it....
I was at work one morning when Tom called me to say that Casey had fallen down the stairs while he was getting ready for work.  She was our first child, so you know that means we completely over-reacted and I left work in a panic to rush home and find her watching Elmo a drop of blood on Tom's shirt.   I took her to the pediatrician who said we should both go home and take some Advil.  I stayed home the rest of that day.  Mothers carry enough guilt around about formula, the right diapers, and lack of involvement in potty training, so I was super glad to not have the falling down the stairs thing on me.  And how much does that mean to me?  I still mention it to Tom all these years later   :)    see that?  that's a smug smiley face in type

She has always loved to have books read to her, has always loved to dress up, and sister has this imagination that can weave a spell of a story when it comes to pretending.  For years she had an imaginary pet horse named "Macheela' whom we gladly accepted into our family.  I have attended every make-believe tea party, restaurant, princess ball, wrestling match, dance party, and magic and talent show.  And, although I can remember maybe sometimes grumbling about needing to be doing other things, I am honored I have always been invited and able to witness Casey's imagination at work.
Casey has always said some really, really funny stuff.  And I cannot tell you how many times someone has told me to write those things down and I did not.  Ugh!  I sooo wish I had.  A couple of good ones were:
"Mommy, some animals sleep during the day; they are not-turtles." (Never once did we tell her she should be saying 'nocturnal'....  )   She has spontaneously sang the 'Star Spangled Banner'  as the dinner time prayer before and concluded it with 'Amen.'  (Tom always shouted "Play Ball!!" afterwards and she is always confused.) We've been out to dinner where we she stood on her chair and said, "Look, I'm using my corn dogs as maracas."   She calls the Smokey Mountains the Spooky Mountains.    The first time she sold Girl Scout cookies, she went door to door telling people she was going to use their money to buy herself a Barbie Party Cruise set.    She's wanted to know the reason princesses live in a Kingdom and not a Queendom.  She exclaimed very loudly at TJMaxx once while gaping at the lady at the register "Mom! That lady lost her identity!!!!!!"....because she wasn't wearing a name tag.    And during her Dora the Explorer phase, EVERY time we would approach the automatic doors at Target or Wal-Mart she would dramatically throw her hands in the air and summon the doors open by shouting "Abre'!" which means 'open' in Spanish.

Honestly, I know this list could go on forever.  Again, I so wish I would have written all of the Casey-isms over the years down.  But I will now and hope that what ever has been spilling out of my sweet girl's mouth all these years isn't over.  (Yeah, I know I will regret saying this as soon as I am humiliated in public....)

This summary is a brief one as moms can brag on forever on the cute things their kids do.  Maybe as more memories come to me I will see fit to interject them in the future.  For now, though, this will bring me somewhat up to date and I will start my first current Ages and Stages right after I get done catching up on Emily.